tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post1078830287418785288..comments2023-10-07T03:12:02.883-04:00Comments on Suburban Matron: Fra-GEE-layBeckyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06517252487552392654noreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-66224004551838357032010-04-15T00:30:14.271-04:002010-04-15T00:30:14.271-04:00To say this is all such a big bummer would be the ...To say this is all such a big bummer would be the understatement of the decade...I'm sorry you're having to go through it. Chances are, your feelings will come and go (remember Kubla Ross?) - mine still do. xoxoxLeciawphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10387890066375679646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-7746443544668884122010-03-27T19:53:50.627-04:002010-03-27T19:53:50.627-04:00Hi Becky - I've heard all about you from my y...Hi Becky - I've heard all about you from my your lovely sister & my friend Amy, and I just wanted to let you know that I've been thinking & praying for your full and successful recovery. Although I've never met you, you seem like such a strong and amazing woman - I just wanted to add all my love and support to you and your whole family.Maihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08124772311017392063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-49381539477508907482010-03-27T19:29:56.711-04:002010-03-27T19:29:56.711-04:00This post did make me a bit misty eyed. I shared a...This post did make me a bit misty eyed. I shared a quote from my boss (Sam Wells) with Amy after some of your original posts..."if it can't be happy, make it beautiful." I still don't know what beautiful looks like in a situation like this, but I see your vulnerability, honesty, and eloquence as a step in the right direction. Much love and prayers continue to be sent your way...Meghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14473089111839212328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-60642916380338966312010-03-26T18:15:02.958-04:002010-03-26T18:15:02.958-04:00My aunt has had a partial mastectomy, so I can und...My aunt has had a partial mastectomy, so I can understand crying for that little piece of you that you're going to lose. It's not superficial, really. I don't know if you pray, but I'll be praying for some peace for you and of course that you'll heal & heal quickly! No one should ever have to go through the ordeal of cancer. Keeping you in my thoughts!<br /><br />CaitlinAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-24755323578806724702010-03-26T17:21:11.260-04:002010-03-26T17:21:11.260-04:00Here I thought it might be inappropriate to commen...Here I thought it might be inappropriate to comment on the writing aspect of this post, but then I looked at the other 30 comments only to see that the line about "those reassurances" stuck in the hearts of so many other readers. AMAZING! AMAZING! AMAZING!God bless you Becky.Zionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11180417908209217887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-10859595266843572132010-03-26T17:11:00.096-04:002010-03-26T17:11:00.096-04:00Where have I been? I'm just now catching up w...Where have I been? I'm just now catching up with all you're dealing with. Ah, Becky... I just hate it for you. Thoughts and prayers your way. I want to run into you at CVS or Target again and hug your neck and tell you everything's gonna be all right. Hang in there.missynallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09275733928125587687noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-41216185175736479432010-03-26T16:38:26.289-04:002010-03-26T16:38:26.289-04:00I didn't mean to, I swear!! Jason threw it in ...I didn't mean to, I swear!! Jason threw it in the bag, thinking it was mine. I'll send it back! Just didn't want you to have to do some nakie hot tubbing. (Not that you'd let that stop you!)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07969357513275063157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-35119548917676013172010-03-26T15:54:28.518-04:002010-03-26T15:54:28.518-04:00Ah, Becky. You are in my thoughts so often these ...Ah, Becky. You are in my thoughts so often these days. I'm so happy you have such a great support network. You have such strength and grace through all of this, but it really is okay to falter every once in a while. <br /><br />Enjoy the mountain house this weekend.Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03776942311638100226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-48355490034897264082010-03-26T15:44:19.345-04:002010-03-26T15:44:19.345-04:00Oh Perpetua, I judge not! I love me some RH! And ...Oh Perpetua, I judge not! I love me some RH! And I saw that the hand-wiping thing happened, but I haven't delved into it yet.<br /><br />And wait a second, Amy-my-sister, did you REALLY take that Boden swimsuit home?!? That has been my hot tub suit for two years! WTH Amy? It's like my whole world has turned sideways, you little sneak!Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517252487552392654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-40085318073483047012010-03-26T15:30:21.126-04:002010-03-26T15:30:21.126-04:00Crap, I got here too late to recommend the crap I ...Crap, I got here too late to recommend the crap I use to ice my brain of Thursdays: Community and Real Housewives (don't judge).<br /><br />I also recommend watching the footage of George W. wiping his hand on Clinton's shirt after shaking hands with displaced Haitians. Pondering what exactly is going on there is a good distraction.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-57243075346060927942010-03-26T14:37:27.759-04:002010-03-26T14:37:27.759-04:00I read your post last night, and I was amazed at y...I read your post last night, and I was amazed at your eloquence and resilience and just general awesomeness, but I didn't really know what to say. So I've been thinking it over, and thinking of you, and I still don't really know what to say, other than, well...I'm thinking of you.<br /><br />Also, *hugs*.Keelyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06323783519078200647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-22610363494519198022010-03-26T13:35:59.316-04:002010-03-26T13:35:59.316-04:00Oh, honey, it's gonna be okay! Everything Mat...Oh, honey, it's gonna be okay! Everything Matt is telling you is true and it is clear that he loves YOU. Your soul, your spirit. NOT your mammary glands.<br /><br /> And speaking as someone who has a little...okay, a LOT...more boob than she would like: all they're really good for is messing up a decent golf swing!<br /><br /> You will be in my prayers for a swift and full recovery and success should you decide to take up golf.Leighhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09975936502557221785noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-52306705434257224592010-03-26T13:34:59.849-04:002010-03-26T13:34:59.849-04:00Hi Becky!
I am loving your fra-JEE-li-tay and so ...Hi Becky!<br /><br />I am loving your fra-JEE-li-tay and so honored to have a peek into your heart since I really know you. And thanks for teaching me how to put on concealer when I was 15. And for being so freakin awesome all the time.<br /><br />tears for you...<br /><br />love, BetsyBetsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17065401335399685943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-78684074012987390872010-03-26T12:57:32.840-04:002010-03-26T12:57:32.840-04:00you'll get through this... and in the end? (a...you'll get through this... and in the end? (as my friend who just went through it likes to point out constantly) you'll have fantastically perky boobs afterward ;-)<br /><br />((hugs))Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15915351322324269632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-72026043313651883432010-03-26T12:02:11.111-04:002010-03-26T12:02:11.111-04:00Oh you guys. Thanks so much for your comments, th...Oh you guys. Thanks so much for your comments, they really buck me up. And thanks especially to you new commenters for chiming in, I love knowing who I'm talking to. And you old steadies, I love y'all!<br /><br />Dental Maven, that book is three bucks at Amazon (!) so I just bought it.<br /><br />More later guys. xo-bBeckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06517252487552392654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-68547191243236419522010-03-26T09:35:21.904-04:002010-03-26T09:35:21.904-04:00You have an amazing talent for explaining this pro...You have an amazing talent for explaining this process. My thoughts are with you during this rough time.<br /><br />I hadn't heard the GWB quote; that is funny stuff.Monnikhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13998729112903749621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-7226438441134910692010-03-26T08:50:59.348-04:002010-03-26T08:50:59.348-04:00so sorry to read about what you are going through....so sorry to read about what you are going through... sometimes there is just nothing to do but feel sad. people try to come up with platitudes, and i'm sure everyone has some story about how they know someone who is a survivor, had their boobs reconstructed, whatever, but i think you just need to give yourself the time to feel sad and not try to fix everything right away. it's ok to not be perfect all the time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-16664870367486861112010-03-26T08:24:41.531-04:002010-03-26T08:24:41.531-04:00Dear Becky Bloggy Friend -- You. Are. Awesome. You...Dear Becky Bloggy Friend -- You. Are. Awesome. You and your 4-year-old self and your 9-year-old self and all your selves. Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing them all with us.Coffee with Cathyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16267344646007108501noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-87756881051994313572010-03-26T06:57:28.633-04:002010-03-26T06:57:28.633-04:00It probably doesn't help much to know that wha...It probably doesn't help much to know that what you describe is completely normal. My 26 year old cousin just had a bilateral mastectomy 2 years ago for CA. But I hope it helps a little to know we're all here and right behind you all the way, Girl.<br /><br />btw - have you read "The Middle Place?"The Dental Mavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138994376843845343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-72819497868536681942010-03-26T00:42:25.204-04:002010-03-26T00:42:25.204-04:00Hi Becky!
It's Rosemary (Amy's friend from...Hi Becky!<br />It's Rosemary (Amy's friend from her church).<br />I just wanted to tell you that we are praying for you (my hubby and I).<br />We met you briefly when you were here last year and not sure if you remember us but just wanted to let you know that we are praying for you.<br /><br />love and prayers<br />Ron and RosemaryJoyfulmumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01888086629467112175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-33651926966452590032010-03-26T00:32:47.373-04:002010-03-26T00:32:47.373-04:00I've been wondering if or when it would hit yo...I've been wondering if or when it would hit you because you seemed so...I dunno...positive about it all. And all I could think was that *I* would be screaming the place down and saying "HELL NO!". But I guess it's all a process. I'm sorry it hit you all at once. <br /><br />Did the lollipop help?Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596650736290691630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-67788944814268857002010-03-26T00:29:24.249-04:002010-03-26T00:29:24.249-04:00Needless to say, Evan has reminded
me on several ...Needless to say, Evan has reminded <br />me on several occasions that I live with Heaven.<br />We love you sooooo much and we are still praying. XOXOXOXOXOXOMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08248660100559182324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-22381523230201921702010-03-26T00:25:51.454-04:002010-03-26T00:25:51.454-04:00Sweetheart, I was about to go to bed and I just ha...Sweetheart, I was about to go to bed and I just had to see if you had written another post. Now that I have composed myself just a little, I just want to say how much I've been thinking about all those little Beckys. I have been telling everyone about the 2 yr old Becky who assured her parents,<br />" I know Heaven. He lives at Marie's house."Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08248660100559182324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-86432257811153388052010-03-26T00:25:26.995-04:002010-03-26T00:25:26.995-04:00Sweetheart, I was about to go to bed and I just ha...Sweetheart, I was about to go to bed and I just had to see if you had written another post. Now that I have composed myself just a little, I just want to say how much I've been thinking about all those little Beckys. I have been telling everyone about the 2 yr old Becky who assured her parents,<br />" I know Heaven. He lives at Marie's house."Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08248660100559182324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6328138894440374230.post-50541700291826286792010-03-25T23:56:15.626-04:002010-03-25T23:56:15.626-04:00Cancer does that, brakes us down a bit, makes us f...Cancer does that, brakes us down a bit, makes us fragile. And of course you mind. No one wants to have surgery. No one wants to have cancer. But thank goodness it is operable. <br />I lost my Dad to malignant melanoma because it wasn't operable. That has been the biggest sadness in my life, losing my Dad. He was so young, only 57, and he left us. I guess I was lucky to find out I had cancer after it was out of my body. No pre-surgery worries, if you don't count the concern of losing your uterus and ovaries. I had a TAH along with a "fibroid" removal, only the fibroid turned out to be a sarcoma, a very rare cancer, only 1% of the population of all the cancers. Lucky me. Finding that out, my greatest fear was that I would leave my girls and cause them the same grief that I had experienced losing a parent. I didn't want to do that to them. I wanted to live, to see them all grown and happy, to see my grandchildren and grow old with my husband. <br />Everything you have to go through will not be easy, but it's all worth it, to live, to be here. You'll still be the same Becky looking back from the mirror. You'll grieve and you'll heal, but you'll still be you... and you'll be here, surrounded by the people who love you.Sjnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01248247475325728054noreply@blogger.com